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You've said "not tonight" five times this week — and felt guilty every single time.
If you can't remember the last time sex felt good, or the last time you even wanted it, you're not broken. You're depleted. I work with women who are done feeling disconnected from their bodies, and ready to actually do something about it.
You've stopped initiating, and started resenting yourself for it
Sex feels like one more thing on the to-do list, not something you actually want
You flinch when he brushes his hand over your shoulder
You used to enjoy your body and have no idea when that stopped
You're tired of "just relax" advice that doesn't touch what's actually going on
School lunches, emails need responding to, dog needs a walk- just some of the excuses you come up with on a daily basis to avoid intimacy.
You want your pleasure back, for you, not for anyone else
This is for you if…
1:1 sex and pleasure coaching isn't a lecture, and it isn't therapy. It's a private, judgment-free space where we get curious about your body, your patterns, and what's actually been running the show — then build the confidence and tools to change it.
We're not chasing a technique or a checklist. We're finding your way back to wanting this, for you, not for anyone else. No shame. No performance. Just you, coming back online.
Here's What We Actually Do Together
Meet Emily
I'm Emily Matthews, a Melbourne-based sex coach, educator, and speaker helping women (and vulva owners) come back to their bodies.
Whether you're exploring your sexuality solo or navigating a relationship that's lost its spark, my work is about reconnecting you to your sensual self, without the shame, pressure, or performing.
I use an integrative, somatic approach, trauma-informed, body-based, and refreshingly practical, to help you feel safe in your body, reignite desire, and actually enjoy pleasure and intimacy. Every day, not just in the bedroom.
This is your invitation to stop performing pleasure and start living it. Fully, freely, unapologetically.
How We Can Work Together
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1:1 Sex and Pleasure Coaching
Deep, personalised sessions to reconnect you to your body and your pleasure.
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Speaking, Writing & Workshops
Real, raw conversations about sex, pleasure, embodiment, and feminine power.
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Free Resources
Tools and practices to start reclaiming your pleasure today, no strings attached.
Home of Sunday Smut Club
Sunday Smut Club is the monthly meetup from Pleasure Pages Collective, the community I built for women who love smut and are done hiding it. No more sneaking your Kindle under the covers, come talk openly about what you're reading (and what it's doing to you).
Join us online or in person for the next session.
The Burn Book is a free guide that names the 11 uninvited guests who've been quietly killing your desire — and gives each one a full dossier, receipts included.
Inside, you'll meet everyone from Hustle Culture to Inherited Shame to the doctor who prescribed your birth control in a ten-second chat and never mentioned what it might do to your libido. Each guest gets a verdict: what she's been doing, how long she's likely been in the room, and whether she's a quick eviction or a longer conversation.
This isn't a book about what's wrong with you. You're not even in it. It's about everything else — the conditioning, the media, the mental load, the shame that arrived before you could talk — that's been shaping your desire without your consent. Read it like the hot goss it is. Then start asking a few guests to leave.
Written by Holistic Sex Coach and Educator Emily Matthews. Free download, straight to your inbox.
What's inside
All 11 guests, introduced properly — who they are, how they got in, and exactly what they've been doing while you weren't looking
A verdict for each one (some can be shown the door this week, some need a longer conversation — you'll know the difference)
Three parts of guided reflection at the end: who's been in your room, how it feels in your body, and where to start
Zero self-improvement homework. Zero "just relax" advice.
You didn't land on this page by accident. Something in you was already looking.
That looking — that wanting to understand, to feel more, to stop managing and start actually living in your body — that's desire. It didn't go anywhere. It's just been waiting for a little room.
The Burn Book is a free guide that names the 11 uninvited guests who've been quietly killing your desire — and gives each one a full dossier, receipts included.
Inside, you'll meet everyone from Hustle Culture to Inherited Shame to the doctor who prescribed your birth control in a ten-second chat and never mentioned what it might do to your libido. Each guest gets a verdict: what she's been doing, how long she's likely been in the room, and whether she's a quick eviction or a longer conversation.
This isn't a book about what's wrong with you. You're not even in it. It's about everything else — the conditioning, the media, the mental load, the shame that arrived before you could talk — that's been shaping your desire without your consent. Read it like the hot goss it is. Then start asking a few guests to leave.
Written by Holistic Sex Coach and Educator Emily Matthews. Free download, straight to your inbox.
What's inside
All 11 guests, introduced properly — who they are, how they got in, and exactly what they've been doing while you weren't looking
A verdict for each one (some can be shown the door this week, some need a longer conversation — you'll know the difference)
Three parts of guided reflection at the end: who's been in your room, how it feels in your body, and where to start
Zero self-improvement homework. Zero "just relax" advice.
You didn't land on this page by accident. Something in you was already looking.
That looking — that wanting to understand, to feel more, to stop managing and start actually living in your body — that's desire. It didn't go anywhere. It's just been waiting for a little room.
FAQs
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I'm a Melbourne-based women's sex coach, integrative educator, and pleasure expert. I help women reconnect with their bodies, reclaim their desire, and experience pleasure fully, whether you're single or in a relationship. Learn more about me here. -
A women’s sex coach guides you to understand your sexuality, explore desire, communicate your needs, and embody pleasure. Unlike therapy, sex coaching focuses on practical tools, embodiment, and real-life sexual empowerment.
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Somatic sex coaching combines body-based practices, nervous system awareness, and embodiment to help women feel safe, express desire, and fully experience pleasure.
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Integrative sex coaching expands on somatic sex coaching by adding a health science informed layer and is a specific modality created by Gynecologist and Medical Doctor Isabela Bottura and renowned women’s sex coach Bonnie Bliss, both of whom I have trained under in their 500hr Integrative Sex Coaching and Education Certificate.
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You’re ready if you feel disconnected from your desire, curious to explore your sexuality, want more pleasure in life, or want to reignite intimacy in a relationship. If you’re asking these questions, coaching can help you reclaim your confidence, curiosity, and aliveness. I’d love to have a call with you to see if we are a good fit and now is a good time. You can book a free Chemistry Call here or find out more about 1:1 Coaching Here.
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Coaching focuses on practical, actionable strategies and somatic embodiment, whereas therapy often focuses on past trauma or psychological processing. Coaching empowers you to take immediate steps toward sexual confidence, pleasure, and desire in your life.
Ready to
RECLAIM YOUR PLEASURE?
REIGNITE YOUR PASSION?
EMBODY YOUR SENSUALITY?
Book a free chemistry call and fill out your application below. No pressure, no scripts, just an honest conversation about where you're at.
